Friday, June 30, 2006

Infatuations...or Love?

What is infatuation? Is infatuation a feeling? Are feelings of panic, uncertainty, feverish excitement, impatience or jealousy a symptom of infatuation, or are these feelings just a symptom of being in love with someone?

I think when infatuated, we are thrilled, but not happy, wanting to trust, yet suspicious. There are lingering, nagging doubts about our “partner in infatuation” and their love for us. We’re miserable when they are away, it is almost like we are incomplete unless we’re with them. It’s a rush and intense. It’s difficult to concentrate. Is infatuation can be controlled? or is it an obssession about someone?
Do any of these “symptoms” resemble feelings of love? What do you think? So why do we become infatuated? Where does it come from? Perhaps it’s biological. What do you say?

Tuesday, June 27, 2006

A piece of mind and thought - Living with Wisdom

How do you live your Life? What have you done in your Life? Did you strive hard enough to make the best of you? Have you ever think and ponder what do you actually want in your Life? These has been in my thoughts for a long time. I am still thinking that I have not brought out the best in me. There are so many things to be done in my Life and there so many things I would like to change. Have you ever thought that you needed to change something in your life? What kind of changes are you thinking about? Am I living in Wisdom and understanding, now?
So, what is Wisdom? According to the dictionary, it says 'the quality of being wise; the ability to make sensible decisions and judgments because of your knowledge or experiense'. Philosophies say that Wisdom consists of making the best use of available knowledge. While Aristotle defines Wisdom as knowledge of causes : why things exist in a particular fashion. I think that basically Wisdom is the accumulation of knowledge and one's life experience which enable one to make some sensible decisions.
From the beginning of time man has been trying to make sense of himself and his own world. Therefore there are questions like Who am I? Why am I here? He has been seeking for an understanding. But as time goes by, I think man is not getting the understanding he seeks, so, therefore he is not happy, and he has not been able to conquer his own being. That is why many of us are complaining about Life including myself. So, what is wrong here? With all the great minds and thinking that have gone before us, with all the lessons of history left for us to examine, it is difficult to imagine why we are not further along than we are. Why are we still asking the same questions in our search for meaning? Do we not yet have enough information available to us?
We are living in a world with more information than we can digest. There are so many irrelavant information that we do not need. So, what are we actually doing with this information? Is this information doing us any good? Are we living happier lives without experiencing problems? Are our decisions better than ever? Are we being Wiser? We are clearly in need of better thinking. We need Wisdom.
The Bible says a lot about Wisdom in the book of Proverbs. We are told that Wisdom is the principal thing. Though it costs us all to get Wisdom.
I think Knowledge is the collection of information that we digest and understand, then, are given a context. While Wisdom is the proper use of Knowledge. It is essential that we learn to let unwanted information one receive go in one ear and out the other. But, one need to stop somewhere in between in order to acquire Knowledge. I guess it is sometimes interesting that mountains of information, turn debates into a pastime. Isn't it a funny thing that Knowledge sometimes can deceive us into thinking that we are wise? My point is, Knowledge alone is not Wisdom. Well, I guess some of you might have heard or know someone who is incredibly smart and yet their Life is in a total mess? Or perharps, you might know someone who is highly educated and yet they could not get a job but faced with problems after one another. What is wrong here? They are not dumb. For them, they might think Life is a struggle, one problem, after another. I should say, sadly, they are lacking Wisdom. In my view, they might not yet learn to apply the Knowledge that they already have in their hands, mere Knowledge is not enough for a successful Life.
Have you ever blasted out on someone whom you think has no common sense? Common sense is a part of Wisdom too. I think that common sense is to apply knowledge to solve one's problems in a way that is better than which might come naturally. We can become so uptight and lose our ability to apply what we have learned to our own lives. So, we lack of common sense. Knowledge that we acquired does not apply to our life, is trivia. It is just Knowledge for Knowledge sake if you can not apply it. Think it is just something about intellectuality. Knowledge alone can leads to arrogance, not to undervalue Knowledge. There must be some thinking to do as to what are the ends of the Knowledge being attained.
Why do you know what you know? And what are you going to do about it? By Knowledge alone, one does not have clear vision, perspectives and the right behaviours. So, when these transformation occurs, I think we call it Wisdom. And how do one get Wisdom? How do we develop it into part of our lives?
Awareness. I guess we should learn to be aware of ourselves and aware of those around us. We can learn from other people's success and not forgetting, their mistakes too. We might have seen people around us are in trouble all the time, and yet, we tend to forget to learn their mistakes. I remember receiving an e-mail from a friend which said, People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. It is so true! You will know that every person you come into contact with, good or bad, is for you, a lesson in living if you will only be aware. You need to determine what they are off or doing right means to you. Every one of your observation is an opportunity for you to figure out what it means and what are you supposed to do with it. Did you know that whenever you see a problem in Life, yours or someone else's, something is really wrong. What it is? Just try to figure it out because it is important for us to know. If we know something works but we do not do it, that is being disconnected from reality. We are the only living beings that can decide to disconnect ourselves from reality! Often we do things that are not important in Life and leaving the important things behind. But, I think we are just kidding ourselves. What would you say? I think living with reality takes an effort on my part. But, it is also essential that we do things that we know must be done and not those things we know we should not be doing.
So, in this context, I happened to understand the Law of Cause and Effect. Things do not just happen to us but for a reason. I feel that we are the decisions we have made and the actions that have been taken. Well, mistakes happen at all time. When it happens, just learn not to gloss over it but take a look at it. Seek to understand why we did it and it did not work, and it was not the result that we always wanted.
From the Knowledge that I have gained today, I have learned to take a step back and analyse a situation before I jump into conclusions. I have not done it successfully yet, but, I will do it and make it a habit to myself. Just think, ponder, make a change in your Life! Begin to practice what you learn and create a habit to it. Isn't it something interesting?
You can talk and offer beautiful ideas, but if there is no action, it is just like you know nothing. I always ask myself at the end of the day, what did I learn today? How would I do it differently? And How do I transfer these lessons to my own Life experiences.
I think this is living by principle and Wisdom. Begin to live intelligently. To live with understanding. To live with meaning. To live with Wisdom.

Saturday, June 24, 2006

My Two Cents' Worth on Religion

What is Religion? The Dictionary defines it as 'the belief in a God or Gods who made the world and who can control what happens in it' ~ Oxford Dictionary of American English.
The sociologists and anthropologists see religion as an abstract set of ideas, values, or experiences developed as part of a cultural matrix. There are almost 21 types of religions in our known world today, excluding the various denominations in each religion. Which religion do you deposit your faith?
Do Religion play an important role in our lives and to what extent? Some might define or judge those who go to the church or temple everyday as an Extremist. However, from my point of view, it is one's belief and faith in God and his love to share with others. A simple word, Love. I go to church because I acknowledge His existence in this world and not because I am a staunch Christian. I read and study the Bible because I want and need to understand His will to walk in His path. I sing Hyms to praise Him. Do we need to proof to others what our beliefs are? In my younger days, I used to have a good ethnic mix of friends & neighbours who are Malays, Chinese and Indians. As I know, Muslims pray 5 times a day and go to their mosque on Fridays (for men). I do not think they are extremists. It is simply because that is a basic doctrine of their religion that they are required to keep up with. Just like schools, we have to abide by rules, and there are Dos and Don'ts. Do we ever question these rules that we have to keep in school?
I think there is an objective behind every religion. Have we achieved the objective? Do we ever know our purpose being here in this world? Is there a mission for us in our brief existence? How do we find the answers?
As we all know, communication is very important in our life. It carries our important messages that we want others to hear. In this century, do people even talk about communicating with God? Yes, I talk about it but with only my church members. It is because most of my friends are not really open to religious matters and I do not want to end up imposing my religious opinions on my friends. Do we share our religious issues with friends, colleagues, relatives, etc.? I think we (Malaysians) are still not open to discuss religious matters. I wish that we will be more open to engage in discussion about religious matters so that all of us will have a better understanding and respect for one another.

Tuesday, June 20, 2006

Spirituality-The Power of Karma


I just learn something new in my life: Spirituality. What is Spirituality? Is it a religion, a belief or just another school of thought? How many people in our society are into this "Spirituality"? I heard that there are many seminars being organized in Kuala Lumpur which encourage people to go for this Spirituality. Is it a self-help seminar or a wake-up call? Is it a good omen?
Personally, I think it has something to do with matters of the Spirit. Man's ultimate nature is often contrasted with the temporal or the worldly stages of Life. Maybe the Spirituality is a sense of connection to a much greater Whole which includes an emotional experience of religious awe and reverence. As with some forms of religion, the emphasis of Spirituality is often based on personal experience. It may be an expression of Life perceived on a higher, more complex or more integrated platform with the outerworldly views, as contrasted with the merely sensual or mortal ones.
So, what are the differences between a religion and Spirituality? What is the objective? Or is it merely a New Age trend? Is Spirituality related to Buddhism, Hinduism or other religion? How do one actually practise this? Do Spirituality practioners, in this sense Spiritualists, actually pray? If yes, whom do they pray to? God? Are Spiritualists the same with the so-called Free Thinkers?
While I was researching Spirituality books, I found this book, titled "The Power of Karma" by Mary T. Browne. The book is about understanding your past and shaping your future. It is an interesting book. Normally I will not buy or read this kind of books because I do not submit to the concept of Karma as I am a Christian. But I bought the book and I finished reading it. Coincidentally, I went to a Chinese temple in LA with my Boss but I did not go in. So, I was sitting on a bench by the main entrance and there were some books about Buddhism. A certain red book caught my attention. It is about Karma. I read some of it and it made me think. Is it really "what goes around, comes around"? Or is it purely a saying to teach the believers to do good deeds? At any rate and no matter how you look at it, it's a good thing. The book says Karma means action. Good action brings forth good karma and vice versa.
I think I am what I am because of my past thoughts, actions and desires. At the same time, I am building my future with my present thoughts, actions and desires.
Well, I always welcome your opinions and views on this. I'd love to learn more.